We’ve discussed a bunch of different topics thus far.

What swagger is and how to create a swagger of your own.  Before we start to fully get into how to use swagger to your advantage, there’s a more important question to answer.  Why is swagger so important?  There are a few things I wrote about Neil Strauss book, The Game, that do ring true.  They’re not completely true, just half truths.  It’s an absolute truth that physical attraction between two people is necessary, but when a person has a few available options for a suitor, as is oft the case with online dating, your ability to interact with and manipulate situations is vital to becoming the chosen suitor.  It can make a good option an excellent option.  I say this from experience, and not the type of experience you would think.

I don’t have some humorous story to tell about a time some girl picked me over someone else because of my sparkling personality or witty banter.  Actually I do, but we’ll use another option.  Truth is, I have chosen a woman over another woman based on personality alone.  Swagger has been used on me.  Irregardless of my knowledge and understanding of what was going on, I still fell prey to it.  That is why it’s so important.  It can make someone else’s mind up for them.

In The Departed, Jack Nicholson’s character, Frank Costella says; “No one gives it to you.  You have to take it.”  And though you’re not “taking it”, you are making the other persons mind up for them.  While discussing this column with a fellow writer, we were talking about the different dating sites, which were better than others when I made a realization.  I’ve rarely used an out and out dating site.  In fact, what I used most often, was Myspace.  And that’s when I said, “It doesn’t really matter what site you use, what matters is your ability to interact with people.  If you create interest and talk game you could use a phone book and a phone to get dates.”  And that is why swagger is so important.

Look, this is a little sad, but I’ve been picking up girls online since I was about nineteen years old.  It’d be sad but I learned the art of interacting, creating interest, making people laugh and closing the deal.  And it’s worked for me.  Hundreds of times.  I’ve always been incredibly shy, in person, so the internet worked for me to express myself.  Plus, randomly picking girls out at a club never really worked for me.  I’d always chose someone who was my complete opposite.  We’d have nothing in common and I couldn’t stand the odd periods of silence in conversation.  She’d be trying to think what she could say about hockey and I’d be grasping for something to say about horse riding.  But I could look online, find out a bit about each person before beginning the discussion.  Then use it as a basis of conversation.  Say the girls profile said she liked hockey, I played hockey for fifteen years and could run with it.  In doing this, I developed my own swagger.  And learned to use it in person.

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